7. I went to Twitter and typed: “What is your biggest regret. World-traveling author, consultant, and coach. By far the most frequent were regrets about not doing the right thing when someone died. "At the end of our lives we all ask: Did I live? The time to start isn't tomorrow because tomorrow may never come. She tweeted me this: “I’m 54, no friends, or family, only 18 followers – the least on here – but I have everything I need. Ten minutes. I was a wimp in my 20s. Be confident. Counterfactual thinking drives regret. The best thing you can do is to take it one day at a time. Unproductive regret, where you completely blame yourself, can create chronic stress which leads to health problems. I wanted to get a job. Shame. Maybe they’ll be reflecting on the shortness of life like I am now. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, The essential guide to taking care of your mind and body. Fear of getting it wrong, leading to an unfulfilled life, followed by self-blame for being fearful. Youth is finite. I also regret my life choices. My 20-year-old son just moved into a fraternity house at his college in the US. When you look back at your career - some decisions went good and some went bad. We go through life getting things and saving them, we're afraid to throw things away that we don't use. The reality is, however, there are an infinite number of reasons we should never regret any of the decisions we … Perhaps the most common regret people have in later years is working too much – the rest of us should take note. Did I love? Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. Starting tomorrow. Dima~ 2 months ago. After reading many answers in this thread, I’m about to change that”. Best choice ever. Some will haunt us forever. Not truly living. I am constantly drowning in such regret, self-loathing, and depression that my life is miserable and I'm falling apart. It’s bizarre how we can get so offended and angry when other people hurt us, and yet repeatedly choose to torture ourselves, far worse than they possibly could, through repeated mental rehashing. Nobody said, “I regret that I got cancer”, because nobody chooses to contract the disease, therefore it’s not technically a regret. All rights reserved. But it doesn’t help the pain to point that out. As others have said my life could have been very different not having made certain choices. If you want to move forward you have to stay away from negative people. Drakorax-The-Dragon. If you're doing work that makes you miserable every other part of your life will be affected. 1. “Not being with Mum at the end. Guilt. It took me until my 30s to figure it out. As I made big changes in my life one way I measured my progress was comparing my results to what others were doing. Thanks for the watch! Instead of focusing on the big changes you want to make, focus on waking up and doing what you have to do that day. Life is too short to spend even a single moment miserable. There’s definitely a lesson in there: while there’s always the possibility of regrettable rejection, it’s better than the regret of not having tried. 2 months ago. Most people spend 40 to 60 hours of their week working. Along the way I learned seven key lessons to not living a life of regret. He told me he had so many dreams and goals that he had never done anything about. ShadowWing48. They wish they hadn’t made decisions based on what other people think Chase those dreams and create that amazing life. When you spend that much time doing something it will affect your life one way or another. He told me to learn the lesson he never learned: don't die with regret. 'I was kicked out of halls after one night' – your freshers' week regrets, Will you regret later what you’re doing now? Career-choice regrets made me realise a pattern was developing … regret seems most often to be about fear. Don’t even think about it | Oliver Burkeman. The truth is that a) we all try to make the best decisions possible using the information available at the time, and b) we all mess up. Start today and tomorrow you'll be closer to living out your dream. This post was published on the now-closed HuffPost Contributor platform. His death was a wake up call and started me on a journey where I lost 165 pounds, moved from Milwaukee, Wisconsin to our dream designation of Maui, Hawaii. I was working. Never regret a day in your life, “Good day gives you joy while a bad day gives you experience”. Maybe these survivors passing on this single regret with such unity and clarity will encourage others to exercise that one vital control. Fast-forward another 18 years, and I will be in the second half of my career and my kids will be out of the house. You’ll Regret Not Making the Choice to Be Financially Free. This may fill you with repentance for your choices made and regret each act. When I posed this question on Twitter, the stories poured out and patterns emerged. D: Erigawn. Ring your mother, be kind to everyone and FFS change your sheets.” I’m already regretting the shallowness of the “change your sheets” bit. Regret. Never lived my potential”, “Not getting a better education and working full time from the age of 16”, “Leaving school in 80s & not going to art college. Too often we let our doubt and fear hold us back from the amazing life we all can live. Not bad things happening to you, or the way that life has punched you in the face: regret is a deep sorrow about something you did, or something you failed to do. “My regret: listening to teachers who said I was stupid because I can’t spell. Accumulating too much stuff. The best thing you can do is to take it one day at a time. Intriguingly, of all the replies, only two people mentioned money – one regretting a flat they hadn’t bought, one regretting a sale. Not chasing your dreams. Ten minutes later her follower count had gone up to 24. But what emerged is that real regrets are about bad choices. We have so many things we want to do in life yet never do. Upon seeing my hesitation, the doctor asked me to take ten minutes to think about my decision. It was encouraging that right alongside the people who regretted a life lived in fear were others who had made a change – now regretting the time it had taken to find their solution for this exact problem: “Taking far too long to realise that everyone else in the world is also imperfect and winging it – just like me”, “Worrying too much about what other people thought of me – trying to uphold what I thought were their beliefs not mine”, “I regret not getting antidepressants 20 years earlier”, “Being scared all the time. Make changes at your own pace. But mental health still carries the stigma that it’s a “weakness” of some sort – and the regrets played that out: “My regret: being too anxious and not assertive enough”, “I regret not coming out sooner. Biggest regret – not listening at school”, At last, here was one tiny area I could be useful … I retweeted her words and asked Twitter if they could help. Own your mistakes but don’t dwell on self-blame. You ignore those doubts and create that amazing life. You have every opportunity to make the most of the life you have right now. Everyone experiences regret at some point in life, especially young people, but regret becomes a problem when ruminating over past mistakes results in disengagement with your life, career, and personal relationships. 4. I gave up the old life, bad habits, and poor choices of friends, and had a fresh start. You’ll Regret Making the Choice Not to Take Charge of Your Life. It’s anger at yourself for having enough information to have made the right decision, but making the wrong one – ie it’s about self-blame. At the end of your life you won't remember any of that stuff but you will remember any incredible experiences. All I had expected were a few variations of the classic “I regret working too hard – should have spent more time with the kids”, but nobody said that – not one person. You can regret and feel ashamed about past sexual experiences and relationship heartaches, past financial mistakes and misguided career choices and bad habits and unhealthy eating which has led to illness. Are you making the right life choices for your future? By Paul Hudson. More than once. If you don’t make the choice, today, to put your... 3. Also – a lot of lessons to be learned here: “My regret: Going to the office Christmas party and then having to look for a new job the next day … Not my fault the boss’s wife turned out to be more than just a flirt”. In an age of teen entrepreneurs and endless messages telling children to “follow their dreams”, these feel like crucial lessons. During those ten minutes my boyfriend convinced me to go ahead with it. I can tell you from personal experience that chasing your dreams is hard work. He wanted to take me for dinner. Get rid of the negative and you'll live a happier life. Regret can be over things you have done or not done. Wasting too much time and money in college switching majors and not focusing knowing I … jasafarid. It's not going to be easy and it will take time but it will be worth it. By studying these regrets, you can make certain that you make good choices and don’t fall victim to them yourself. So while I'm glad I have my wife and kids I still regret a few things. Learn what regret is. When we moved to Hawaii we were shocked by how much stuff we had. ©2020 Verizon Media. The six years I spent working in hospice care were some of the most profound and meaningful of my life. Real regrets are about bad choices in love, learning and loss, being held back by fear – and self-blame, Last modified on Mon 25 Nov 2019 07.21 EST. I learned the hard way that comparing yourself to others only leads to bitterness and heartache. Every day is a gift and we should live each day as if it were the last. We're excited to tell our friends or family about changes we're making in our lives. She died 2 hrs after I left her, it haunts me still”, “Not calling my Dad the night before he suffered a fatal heart attack, just because I had only lost ½lb and I didn’t want him to be disappointed”, “My cousin rang me on Christmas eve and I really rushed the convo because I was cooking … she killed herself on Boxing Day”, “Not staying with my mum to the very end. After 2 degrees was told I’m dyslexic. As you get older, instead of dissipating, those regrets tend to start piling up—according to a 2016 survey by life insurance company Allianz, 32 percent of respondents said they regretted major life decisions they'd made. Asking for a friend.” The response was huge. There are opportunities all around us and people are making their dreams a reality as you're reading this. In a way most complex, there were a lot of tweets about anxiety, and what intrigued me was the self-blame. Thread starter Monkeyking100; Start date May 10, 2020; Monkeyking100 Well-Known Member. 1. If you don’t choose to take control of your life,... 2. It means that no matter how many times you fall you get back up and keep pushing forward. About pretty much everything. No Regrets: Sometimes The Wrong Choices Bring Us To The Right Places. And most of the replies divided into six specific categories. Instead of focusing on the big changes you want to make, focus on waking up and doing what you have to do that day. Last month, I spent three days there trying to turn his bedroom from a fluorescent-lit hellhole into a page from an Ikea catalogue, and while making up flat-packs, we discussed his hopes and plans for the next three years … what he wanted from life, from love, his strengths, his fears, and how to approach his college years so that he could set himself up for a life well lived. Regret is a negative cognitive or emotional state that involves blaming ourselves for a bad outcome, feeling a sense of loss or sorrow at what might have been, or … Pretty soon you'll start to believe what they're saying and quit. As I sat thinking during his funeral I kept replaying the last few conversations we had. ‘I wasn’t there at the end’: readers’ biggest regrets in life. And then, perhaps less surprising, there was love: a few tweets from people regretting that they had declared their love and ended up having their heart broken, but many, many more regretting not being braver and not risking vulnerability – the regret of having been afraid. Not bad things happening to you, or the way that life has punched you in the face: regret … Did I matter?" The tweet “I regret allowing depression and anxiety to rule my life since teen years” could have been reframed as “I have a mental illness against which I have felt powerless since my teens”. Moved to France – still scary but food and life is good!”, “I used to worry about keeping up appearances but when I had a crisis ppl were so supportive”. She now has more than 900 and is massively excited about it, starting enthusiastic conversations with dozens of her new followers. Thank you so much for the watch . They all had the same message. I wish I had made some changes in my priorities, in order to be on the receiving end for lasting positive results. He was relatively young and his death was a shock. I regret my life choices. Part of HuffPost Wellness. I left a job I was miserable at to follow my dream of writing. All of us feel these things at different points in our lives, especially after making a “bad” decision. She died overnight. As well as the many tweets like this: “That my mum died too young to see me turn from an ungrateful, truculent teenager into a person and father I hope she’d be proud of”. 13. “Life is about choices. Still at the same workplace now”. Take risks – they may go wrong but it’s better than regretting not having tried. Very few replies were lighthearted – though I loved the ones that were …, “Being sick in my father-in-law’s hand”, “Not flying on Concorde to New York with Lionel Richie. You may not have as much as someone else but you can and you will if you do something about it. Having a past full of failure is not a very good reason to kill yourself, since if you do you’ll necessarily die a failure. I just saw a Bramblestar dysuva and now i regret trading my squirrel flight dysuva ;-; It also looks like Broken star or Tiger star. I righted my regret. With the help of mental health professionals, we've rounded up the biggest regrets people have over 50. On the final evening, I found myself alone in a horrid Illinois hotel, still thinking about my boy’s apprehensions for his journey into adulthood and how I might help him make decisions he would never regret. I am a 30-something employee of a company and to be honest, I have a feeling of deep regret over how the choices I had made in life 10 years back have shaped up my life now. And there were some beautiful stories. “Never going to University. Constantly comparing yourself to other people. One that a bar chart cannot capture. Regret … perhaps I could have been an Olympian”. As you take it one day at a time you'll look up after a while and realize you're there. I don’t know why so many people had such strong regrets living so close to the surface – but by the end of the evening, I felt I might have learned more about life through what people regretted not doing, than through 55 years of being given advice about what to do. The message: we are what we chose to be.” Ten minutes to choose whether I wanted to raise a child. These were sad, sobering, enlightening responses – big stories told in 140 words to a stranger on a Saturday night. All other regrets will be overshadowed by this. This weekend I became World Champion Kettlebell Lifter in 55-59 age group. I was afraid and needed to go home to my kids. If a regret is defined as “feeling sad or disappointed about something you have done, or failed to do”, then it would imply these tweeters feel that living in fear is some sort of choice. 2. However, I feel it’s only through mistakes and failure in life that you can grow. 2) Recognize the greatest regret. 2 months ago. You'll look up after a while and realize you're there. I had casually asked a question that, surprisingly, a lot of people really wanted to answer. It means you don't hold back, you chase those dreams. 6. “Too scared to risk failing at something I loved, so I succeeded at something I had no passion for”, “Not following my dream to work in radio”, “Listening to my dad when he said my voice was too weak to be a singer”. I can tell you from personal experience that chasing your dreams is hard work. If you regret a lost (or found) relationship, a career choice, a financial decision, an educational experience, then instead of focusing on “what if I had,” focus on “what I want." Dysuva (Bat) 2. I love your character and the art you get! Depression’s most successful con trick is to convince its victims that it’s their own fault. Took the Savile situation for me to realise I would be believed.”, “Biggest regret.... my Grandad... abusing my brother and I ... not having the courage to disclose so I could have protected him ...”. Best of luck! When I look back at some of the most painful moments of my life, I see myself sitting alone, feeling either immense shame or regret. Start today and you won't die with regret in your heart. It was one area in which the abused had control, and they regretted not exercising it. Before I flew home from Chicago, I texted my college son with this advice: “The most debilitating enemy you can have is your own fear. 7. Might even get that tattooed on to their arms. Left me disadvantaged all my life. In fact, there are certain situations some of us would rewind (or delete) if we could. Be grateful for your life. These are three of the darkest emotions any human will ever experience. I was humbled by their honesty. On the final evening, I found myself alone in a horrid Illinois hotel, still thinking about my boy’s apprehensions for his journey into adulthood and how I might help him make decisions he would never regret. The damage, trauma and pain came from a range of different circumstances, but the “regret” in all of them seemed to be the same – that the survivor hadn’t spoken up sooner. 5. Wasted years worrying about it”, “Worrying. Join me at kconstable.com. Be grateful that you are alive. Believe it or not, a lot of our biggest regrets in life have to do with things that happened to us in grade 4 or some other early age. y 20-year-old son just moved into a fraternity house at his college in the US. 20 years too late now”, “Marrying the first person who asked because I thought no one would ever ask me”, “Not following my heart many times over the years, and allowing my limited expectations to define my life and decisions. Here are seven choices you'll regret at the end of your life if you don't do something about them today. Your choices today will determine the number of regrets you will have in … The hardest part was not the decision, but coping with the ‘what if’ afterwards”. Last month, I spent three days there trying to turn his bedroom from a fluorescent-lit hellhole into a page from an Ikea catalogue, and while making up flat-packs, we discussed his hopes and plans for the next three years … what he wanted from life, from love, his strengths, his fears, and how to approach his college years so that he could set himself up for a life well lived. I’ve read them out loud to my teenage sons. Mental health is tough enough to handle without adding self-blame – but anxiety and self-reproach seem to be a “buy one, get one free” package. Where there’s life, there’s clearly time to turn regret around. Ten minutes! I play Soulless 5 on Robeats and I regret it after the first 15 seconds. The greatest regret is that I am not prepared to die. “Not telling someone I loved them. Letting jealousy win. Regret is negative feelings of guilt, sadness, or anger over past decisions. ... I’m finally in the right place in my life, and if it took … Education was high up the list – there were many more regrets to do with school and college than I would have expected. Generally if you haven't used something in the last year you probably don't need it (there can be exceptions of course). Productive regret can help you learn to change your behavior for the future. So much of life seems to revolve around making money and getting ahead, but lifestyle is a choice. Here are seven choices you'll regret at the end of your life if you don't do something about them today. But I won’t tell you that I regret any of the decisions that I made, as poor as they might have been. My unsolicited advice is to just pick something that's somewhat appealing, then adjust as you go. Negative people aren't happy with them selves and will poison your progress. 3. Likewise if you regret the life you’ve lived and you kill yourself then you will die having lived nothing but a regrettable life. I wouldn’t regret her if my husband was still here, but now I’m in a situation that I can’t get out of. But her tough life had been turned by her head into a personal failing and therefore a “regret”. But my favourite of all the replies was from @dorey1414. Come to the end of your life with a smile on your face knowing that you have no regrets. Although the life stories I hear as a hospice nurse are all unique, certain regrets get expressed time and time again. 3 months ago. -- Brendon Burchard. Regret is a critical way of thinking or feeling in which you blame yourself for things that happened. Absolutely sexy :3 . There are many ups and downs. The one thing he said in those conversations was he wished he had done more. The worst thing for me was getting paralysed by choice anxiety and doing nothing at all (except staying in my dead-end job). Whether you’re seeking parental approval or pursuing pay and prestige over passion, making a poor career choice is … It was an impulsive selfish choice that I immediately regretted, but it has ruined relationships in my life and, worst of all, my mental health such that I can't even be the man I used to be to try to rebuild. I’m clearly no authority on this subject, but I’d love to tell you a bit of what I saw that night. 1. By the morning it was 360. Some we regret, some we’re proud of. 3 months ago. In April of 2012 my father died at the age of 54. Learn from your teachers – you’ll never regret that. Or, that I have failed to live my life for God. “Not having the courage to speak up as a teen victim of sexual abuse”, “Not speaking up sooner about stepfather. Life is short. Joined Apr 16, 2020 Messages 1,074 Reactions 345. We have so many things we want to do in life yet never do. I forever fear she was in fear. Found one. Having left school before her exams and worked for 38 years in a job she doesn’t enjoy, she’s using this moment as a chance to address the regret, and has just bought her fourth book …, “The last 20 years have been particularly bad, no one should wake up dreading the day ahead, I thought it was all I could do, but maybe not …”. Mistakes and bad choices usually centre around the three biggies of life: relationships, career/finances and health/lifestyle. I can deal with most of my other regrets in life but am having a hard time dealing with this one." Too often we let our doubt and fear hold us back from the amazing life we all can live. That stuff creates clutter, which will lead to stress. There are many days when you want to quit. Am currently on 4th degree”, “For me it used to be going into teaching instead of law. Unfortunately jealousy is a part of human nature but there are some who know how to deal with it. We always think we have more time when the reality is we're not guaranteed a tomorrow. And then, as if in reply, I also got a set of tweets filled with big solutions. Changed for better”, “Not finding the Open University earlier”. I regret my life choices. ... and about all the poor decisions that I made in my life. Letting negative people hold you back. ... followed by ill-fitting career choices. Sometimes they're not as excited as we are and sometimes they're even negative. But what emerged is that real regrets are about bad choices. You make a poor career choice: There are too many people out there who studied for a degree they regret or even spent their lives pursuing a career they regret. Not truly living. #muppet”, “#TossUp between joining the Jehovah’s Witnesses at 14 & living in a high-control group for years - OR - not seeing Patrick Swayze in Guys & Dolls”. “didn’t know I could be an athlete til I saw London 2012. There are many ups and downs. May 10, 2020 #1 So I finally got a runaan which is really good for me but when I enchanted it on the enchant table because I’m impatient and I really wanted enchants I got punch 2. Ten minutes to choose my baby’s fate. The saddest stories were from people who had been abused – and even in 140 characters, they were terrible. All the time”. Truly living doesn't mean you're skydiving every other day. 0. If you can't control jealousy you'll definitely live a life of regret. It wasn’t just big in volume – more than 300 replies – but the tweets were devastatingly honest. There are “poor” people living much better lives than wealthy workaholics. You should not regret your choices but learn from them and become wiser. 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